If activities seem too hard on your schedule or psyche right now, Zane says to look into the Internet dating scene."They are fun, flirty, and super ego boosters," says Zane."Time with friends, time spent on activities that don't include kids or work, and time alone are all important." If you don't have time for these, your schedule may be too busy to fit dating in -- for now.If you want to date, you'll have to make time in your life for it."Not to say that one should abstain from this kind of activity, but it's best to do it when the kids are not in your custody or [are] at a friend's house." Still thinking of having your new love spend the night when the kids are home?
Talk about how we meet people we like and as we get to know each other better we get to decide if we still want to be friends, she says."I always remind my clients: You've already had your kids and white dress moment, so there should be no rush to the altar again." Don't focus on finding the one; concentrate on meeting new people, developing new friendships, and having fun.It's worth being upfront about the fact you have kids, Zane says."It's important to engage your village, friends, family who can support you with time-sharing and babysitting," Zane says.Parents who have a shared custody agreement may have evenings without the kids that they can use to schedule dates. You fill out a profile and it matches you with other like-minded mothers in your area." A potential friend and someone to swap babysitting with? Dating has changed since you were single, and so have you.