In her initial conversations and meetings with an Internet date, ask your mother to use just her cell phone (her home phone can easily be tracked to her home address) and to meet him in a public place. These 7 pieces of advice should serve as a starting point for the talk, or better yet, an ongoing dialogue with your parent.Whether your parent is alone for the first time in many years or has been on her own for a while now, her desire to look for love is certainly understandable. Having “the sex talk” with your parents is admittedly a tricky proposition. More than 30 percent don’t even know where to begin and nearly 30 percent say they find it too stressful (think back to those sweaty palms and awkward conversations.) For more than 40 percent of respondents, other priorities are simply more important, and nearly one-quarter say it’s just too difficult to date when you’re 50-plus. That’s true whether you’re 16 or 56, but more than 40 percent don’t believe there is anyone “out there” to date.I agree that one should never speak to someone with more life experience without recognizing and appreciating their wisdom.
The goal was to make sure that mature adults who are re-entering the dating scene — especially if it’s been a long time — understand that the so-called “scene” has dramatically changed over the last decade.My last Huff Post blog about this topic set off a stream of comments, some asserting that I was being condescending.In my 20 years of working as an advocate for caregivers, baby boomers and mature adults, I’ve never seen such a strong reaction to a topic.And an even larger percentage experience at least occasional trouble with achieving or maintaining an erection.Fortunately, for many men, an oral medication taken shortly before sexual activity helps. Obviously regardless of age one can still get sexually transmitted diseases (although your parents may have referred to venereal disease, or VD, in their talks with you) and many unfortunately do. In the 2010 documentary film Catfish, the young star Nev Schulman discovered that the “attractive young dancer” with whom he had an online relationship was actually a middle-age mother of four.