First, if your daughter knows in advance what you will be asking and is prepared for what it will be like, she will usually feel honored, protected, and loved.
That’s why you need to be involved—because others parents aren’t! This will require some extended conversation between Mom and Dad. What about dating—are you going to let your kids date or not? As Ashley and then Benjamin and Samuel began adolescence, we looked more closely at this issue and over the years developed some family guidelines for the following: When a child can date, whom they should date, acceptable kinds of dates, telephone use, Internet communications, and so on. We (especially dads) need to interview our daughters’ dates.Barbara and I were good friends for several years before our relationship turned from friendship to dating toward marriage.We have noticed that God often seems to follow this pattern.What we have is a youth culture with far too many liberties and not nearly enough parental involvement and boundaries. A number of years ago, our friend Jerry Wunder shared with us the benefits of interviewing our daughters’ dates.We’ve been doing it ever since and found the benefits to be enormous.