Many people and especially men, treat their first call to a woman that they just met and got a phone number from as a pure technicality – a brief, plain conversation during which all they need to do is to set up the time and place to meet for a date.
By doing this, these men are missing out on a very important step in the interaction with the woman they just met – they are not using that first phone conversation effectively.
Plus, you want to leave him thinking about you and curious to know more. This will help you avoid catching them in the middle of washing their dog, their hair, etc! Be confident and talk to them like you’d talk to one of your friends. To avoid this pitfall, I’d suggest having a checklist which is especially easy to do since you’ve already communicated and there a ton of questions that you can ask them about their profile. You should definitely avoid talking about your exes, politics, recently deceased relatives or pets or anything that makes you feel less than happy. Asking questions of this type helps to foster your conversation and allow them to get a better feel for you as a match. Even though e Harmony does a very good job of matching you, I’ve seen and read a lot of profiles where users have taken some liberty with what they’ve written and embellished to varying degrees. If you’re going to do it, it should be near the end of the call. You’ve invested so much to get to this point; don’t be afraid to reveal that you’ve looked forward to speaking with them. Don’t get me wrong — it’s ok to have some silence here and there, but you really want to avoid extended periods of dead air. Be prepared to talk about your life, friends and family, hobbies and recent accomplishments. This is the most important piece of advice I cannot reiterate enough.In addition, there is a tremendous risk to a marathon phone call which can work against you – over sharing!Women often get lulled into a sense of connection and then start sharing their problems which rings all his warning bells! Simply say, “I enjoyed talking with you but I have to get going.” Let him take the lead about deciding to meet or calling you again.