I was just an insecure girl standing in front of a surprisingly hot guy, asking him to like me, so even though I knew I was out of my league and he was a tonsil, when he ended it I did that thing where you embarrassingly try to argue the person out of it, instead of exiting gracefully.Which was ridiculous, because in the whole of history, nobody has ever successfully argued someone into getting back together with them.And weight isn't a personality flaw that slowly reveals itself after time, like racism or loud chewing.Why select a croissant, take it home and eat a large portion of it, and then take it back to the shop dissatisfied, because you really wanted a bread stick?It was while I was asking him why, and what happened, and how come, that he told me I was fat. He wasn't wrong, and for a change he wasn't lying, he was just mean and tactless and weirdly only waking up to the fact three months later.I've never figured out why he carried on seeing me for that long if my size bothered him. It's wanking that makes you blind, not being a wanker.People were doing it, and people that you were doing it, but it definitely wasn’t part of the social fabric.It was way more common to say, ‘We’ll tell people we met at the library or whatever.’” Season 1 | TRAILER | The Dangers of Online Dating from Brianne Nord-Stewart on Vimeo.
You could lie outright, or smudge the truth a bit, to give someone the chance to get to know you first, and decide for themselves whether they're OK with a little extra padding.So I always put that I was "a few extra pounds" in the "body type" section.An understatement at the time, maybe, but online personal ads are like property ads, everyone knows what "renovator's dream", "charming" or "quaint" really mean.And something utterly mad is happening, I'm starting to think that they're beautiful, and I hope I'm not the only one.It's not the magic of professional lighting or that larger bodies have changed, I think it's just that we're getting more and more used to seeing them; clothed, in underwear and nude. I've always liked a bulkier guy, but now I think I like a bulkier girl too.