Now that you’ve had a week or two to write up your profile and dip your toe into the world of online dating, it’s time to take a step back and take stock. Even a terse “Fuck off, cave troll” means that at least you’re being heard. It’s one of those times that makes you feel like you’re ready to scrap the whole idea and try your hand in places where you might have more success…
Or are you sending a lot of messages out into the void, never to be heard from again? Much like in real life, the only reaction that really infuriates is reaction.
If you have a great time talking on the phone, laughing, teasing each other, exchanging ideas that you both care about and finding each other’s company interesting on the phone, the benefit of such a conversation will be two-fold: first, you will already be interested and even attracted to each other since you have already enjoyed talking to each other which is a big part of romantic interest; secondly, by having a fun telephone conversation, you will have already “broken the ice,” so that your first date will likely be free of that typical awkwardness where two strangers are meeting and talking to each other for the first time.
A few people reported that they started talking to someone online while being away from their hometown for an extended period of time.
Not wanting to have the conversation go stale by e-mailing back and forth, they decided to talk on the phone, and were forced by the circumstances to talk on the phone several times before they were able to meet in person, once of them return to his place of residence.
On the other hand, if you don’t have a good conversation on the phone, chances are pretty high that you won’t get along in person either, so there is really no reason for you to meet in person, and that one short phone conversation will save you lots of time and aggravation of going out on a boring or otherwise bad date.
I found one compelling proof that talking on the phone before meeting in person can actually make your meeting more interesting and exciting.