These days no-one thinks you’re some kind of whey-faced spod just because you met your girlfriend on Guardian Soulmates. But still, you can see the appeal, especially as online dating has lost some of its stigma.Then again, maintaining an online persona can be just as exhausting as manufacturing a real one.All those categories to fill in and interests to feign (fringe theatre, Vogon poetry, kabbadi).Some of us don’t even have personalities beyond our music taste.
“A lot of dating sites are boring,” says co-founder Alex Parish, a web developer and part-time musician. But with Tastebuds you have this easy route in.” Launched in summer 2010, the site now has 10,000 users, though Parish says he doesn’t know how many of those people – if any – have gone on actual dates after meeting on Tastebuds.
For a start it usually happens in a pub or club, which means you’re senseless with booze and have to shout, thereby steamrollering any nuance in what you have to say and rendering your best-laid conversational zingers as blithering drunktalk. If you’re single, and you’re introduced to another single person, you’re inclined to project a desperate sort of I-am-potentially-available-for-sex version of yourself, which may have precious little to do with your actual personality. Actually, that’s not true: dating sites merely defer the agony until the first date.
They take the social sting out of meeting strangers.
You can certainly see the mainstream potential, though the concept of music-powered dating raises a number of questions.
Can you base a relationship on a shared love of Esben And The Witch? Haven’t people always (well, since 2005-ish) used social media, especially Myspace and Last.fm, to project their music tastes and meet new people?