What’s more, while he may be freshly out of a relationship, he’s not that keen on starting a new one.
“He tells you he’s not looking for a commitment,” Ahluwalia says.
He seems to have fun talking to you when you’re out with friends, but he only texts you after dark. We talked to college guys and relationship experts to give you the lowdown on why that guy is keeping you around if he doesn’t want a relationship.
Or maybe he calls you his girlfriend, but he’s been pretty distant lately. Here are four reasons a guy might be stringing you along and how to tell if it’s happening to you.
“He’ll continuously go back and forth between choosing to spend time with [you] and wanting to run away from [you].” If a guy is constantly coming back to you in between all of his failed relationships, you may be nothing more than a shoulder to cry on.
If you hear your guy saying things like, ‘I’m not sure I’m ready yet,’ or, ‘I’m not saying never, but’…
then pay attention.” We absolutely hate it when guys do the fade-out thing, but letting a girl know he’s just not that into her is a difficult situation for all parties involved.
“He’s using physical intimacy with you as a way to avoid dealing with his breakup and is not interested in any level of emotional intimacy.” While it’s not necessarily true that nothing comes of all rebounds, if he’s showing any of these signs, you might want to reconsider your relationship (or lack thereof) with this person.
“These guys are much more concerned about repairing their feelings than attending to yours,” Michael says.