I felt freedom to jettison many of these standards and even to start dating.As I embraced this new-found freedom, I slowly stopped judging others and myself. I’m not sure when exactly this happened, but during that time frame, I made two really firm resolutions: 1) I’d never, ever go through another courtship.It’s as if I thought, “You dads got us into this mess to begin with; now you clean it up!” I should mention that I had a rocky relationship with my dad (actually my stepfather, who had adopted me when he and my mom married) throughout my teens.We married eight months later in a simple garden ceremony attended by family, friends and church family.
After the courtship ended, I spent the next year and a half volunteering with IBLP in Honduras, Mexico, and at the Dallas Training Center, even though my family was no longer enrolled in ATI.
By this time, his family had announced the courtship in a family newsletter.
In addition to all of my friends, a large group of strangers also knew about the courtship. He was a really nice guy with a heart for God and was genuinely planning to marry me, and I just wasn’t interested.
When I was in my early 20’s I spent about 13 months working at an ACE school in Mexico.
It so happened that one of my brother’s friends, a guy I had met previously at the IBLP (Institute in Basic Life Principles) Dallas Training Center, lived there as well.