Make sure you take this time to work on yourself as well. I am going to counseling, but I don't want to offer it to him. I want to see him make the steps in the right direction and continue in them. I don't have any suggestions for you, just sympathy. He has peace and calm all the time and can't do 4 days... I don't want to Prince Charming, but I do want a man that values me for who I am. I am not sure if I can get a "new" marriage with him to be honest. I just want him to show responsiblity and effort for the place that we are in. I know that marriage and life can get hectic but we should always reconnect with our spouse about why we got married in the first place. And, for the ladies reading this post – if you are discontent or resentful in your marriage right now, I think that this may be a post for you to skip. Everything is going to be fine within the next 24 hours! Take her hand, lead her to bed, tuck her in, cuddle with her for a few minutes/play with her hair/rub her back/hold your hand over her heart (this can be really calming for some of us) and reassure us one more time, “Everything is ok.
Think ours is "too little too late" but you need to do what feels "right for you!I am no longer going to be the doer or bring all the suggestions to the table.If he wants me, he is going to have to work for it. All the things that you would do for that hot girl that you really want -- do them for me!Ya' know I really want to TELL him what I want, but I have been telling him for years.If he has any clue and really wants this relationship to work, he is going to have to step his part up big time.