I just want to know what you want out of this relationship? Don’t be like, “Oh, okay, we can be friends with benefits” and secretly hope he’ll change his mind. As much as it sucks, you may need to cut ties with him if things don’t go well.
Are you interested in getting serious or are you not looking for anything like that? Another important thing to keep in mind: going into this, you need to know what you want. Don’t settle for something you don’t want just to be with him in some way!
I love your column and think you do a great job of answering questions and concerns with sympathy, empathy and insight. I asked if that’s why he doesn’t want to move in—because he’s afraid we’ll break up and it’ll be a pain to move out.
Before me, he was in two longer-term relationships, and he said that he’s never had what we have now, that he’s never even considered marriage and kids with anyone else before and that I’m not just his girlfriend, I’m his best friend.
He’s been working on it for more than 2 years so I don’t know if that’s also a factor in why he’s reluctant to move forward.
We almost never fight, but when we do it’s always about the bigger issue: our future together. I’ve told him that I’ll wait and believe he’ll be worth it.
When you start dating someone new, the number one thing you start thinking about is probably when you should make your relationship official. Wondering when to start calling that dude you’ve been hooking up with your boyfriend can be super stressful.
If you say it at the wrong time, it can destroy any chance of a future relationship – but the same thing can happen if you wait too long. Well, a recent study done by both Zoosk and revealed something a little bit surprising about when to make things official.