He would swoop in like Tarzan swinging on a vine, rescue them from whatever situation they found themselves in, and be their hero. But they did not see his inability to allow them to disagree or have an opinion. So, they would be a perfect match—until he would see the other side of a passive, compliant woman.
But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them.Then, lo and behold, one day she would really "mess up" and have a wish contrary to somthing he wanted or valued. When they first met, she showed only half of who she was, hiding the other half, which would come out in sneaky, indirect ways.Then, from his perspective, she had "changed" and had become "selfish." "She used to be nice, and now look! After a while, it came out directly, such as when she disagreed with him.They have tantrums or sulk when others set limits on them, or they simply fold and comply with others just to keep the peace.” ― Henry Cloud, “God's solution for "I can't live that way anymore" is basically, "Good! Set firm limits against evil behavior that are designed to promote change and redemption.Get the love and support you need from other places to take the kind of stance that I do to help redeem relationship.