I’ve been there, so I can personally attest to this as being fucking awkward!!! This is where texting comes in pretty handy for starters. Ok, I’ll lay out a scenario of a bar setting and how to initiate sex talk/dirty talk with a stranger chick. [Remember guys: this palm reading exercise of mines is total bullshit and it’s based on nothing but pure freestyling] Me: “I sense that you can be a very sexual person once you meet the right guy who won’t judge you”. Me: “My crystal ball also says that you have no panties on and that you love going commando”. In the past, I was guilty of making this crucial mistake many times where I would meet a girl on Facebook through mutual friends, we hit it off from the start, dirty talk ensues via Facebook chat, we set up a meet up- then she flakes at the last moment.Let’s say that you’re feeling quite frisky and your GF is currently away at work. : Bars and nightclubs are sexually charged environments where chicks are opened to being hit on and treated as sex objects. But how many guys actually get sexual with strange women at bars? The defining factor between you and the drunk guy is that you’ll be coherent oppose to the drunk guy who lacks coherency and proper calibration. You know what they say about girls who drink Apple Martinis right”? Me: “You’re gonna be really offended by this…[building tension, anticipation and intrigue by pausing]…They say that girls who drink Apple Martinis…are lacking good sex”! If she doesn’t flake, she will flat out make a bunch of excuses as to why we cannot meet up.[Motion for her to put a piece of what she’s eating into your mouth] Me: “Eem, yummy! Notice how I didn’t dive right in and say something like: “I want to fuck you”! That was a perfect example of how to initiate sex talk with your girlfriend or wife. Ok guys, hopefully you get the point of how to go sexual (verbally) with strange girls at bars.I abide by the “crawl-first model” by insinuating sex with the eating of lobster, then I gradually got more sexual. With a girl you’d never been sexual with: it gets a bit trickier. Spank me please so I can learn my lesson that it isn’t cool to go up to random girl and be so forward”! Dirty talking should be commenced subtly using sexual innuendos before getting sexually explicit.
Me: “Well you have to figure this out because I’m here with a hard on at work”. You cannot initiate sex talk while the target girl is within earshot of her girlfriends. Check out the following dialogue I’d recorded on audio [word for word] of a recent bar pickup of mines: Me: “Hey quick question; why is it that chicks in bars always choose Margaritas as their first drink of choice”? Maybe is because it’s a light drink and we want to start light”. Sure you can flirt over text or phone conversation, but keep it light in order to avoid making her feel slutty.Contrary to popular belief and falsified bullshit put out there by women, talking dirty with your date is actually possible and a great sign of things to come! They won’t see a thing but hear you moaning silently”…This has to be done more subtly however since you’re in the presence of others [at a restaurant, etc.]. Flirting quite naturally has the potential to lead to dirty talking since flirting is the proverbial spring-board to getting you there. Ok guys, that was an actual excerpt from a sex chat I had with my GF via Blackberry messenger [BBM].Not that this is inherently a bad idea, but you have to be socially aware enough as to when you can go verbally sexual and when you shouldn’t.: Another common mistake when it comes to talking dirty is to jump right into it without warming the girl up first.