It is not the first time that I have come across the attitude that career women deserve to be alone if they don’t want to date men without any education, or men a generation older, or the obese. Alas, men don’t care if you’re taller, richer, smarter, or funnier. Which is why men can date ANYONE – regardless of education, income, and height – while many women can only date 1 in 1000 men who are 6 feet tall, with a masters degree and a 0,000 income.
I am just wondering how many men really think like this. So are some men unrealistic in thinking that they deserve a chance with you? Are they also correct in pointing out that they are open to a lot more women than you are open to men, and this may hinder your ability to find lasting love? To your original question, no one is saying (apart from the jilted men) that you deserve to be alone.
Yet, despite this, co-workers continue to wind up in bed together, restrictions and warnings be damned.
So if workplace dating is such a bad idea, why do employees keep doing it?
Fiona, It doesn’t matter how many men think like this. But I would be remiss if I didn’t pull out the nugget of wisdom from the flawed logic of the laundry operator.
You may be technically correct that he’s not of your social station, but that’s of no concern to the man you’ve just insulted to his face. All of your examples are extreme, but not all men are extreme examples of anything. What I am saying – and what these men are inartfully suggesting as well – is that you don’t marry a list of traits. And if you never think outside the box, you may well find yourself standing alone at the end of the dance. Being viewed (judged) like that is the reason why many men will not even go near a woman who earns even a little bit more than he does.
In fact, some of today’s best-known power couples began their relationships while working together.
Then again, some notable romance disasters began with workplace dating, so it’s important know what makes office romances succeed – and what makes them fail.
Is it because the stress of working together creates a unique bond between people?
Or that as employees work longer hours, the office has become the only available place to meet people?