And what with this fibromyalgia being so darned "mind-body connectedness, the discouraging words "Forever" and "Hopeless" sink into your psyche and take root there, where it later can magnify fibromyalgia pain. I just feel like I'm too much of a mess, in that I have just too many issues for anyone to want to date me.
Because people need a future, they need change and upward movement -- that's the American Dream.
Just do not have too high expectations or too low ones about a relationship- be realistic.
If you want to find love you have to go out there to find it- it will not just fall on your lap or be handed to you on a silver salver (be dynamic/proactive) yet also do not have that desperate air about you either as that is not attractive.
The fibromyalgia is so all-encompassing, and, it is so diffused into the mind-body connection, where a thought can either raise pain level or lower it, and so it appears to the average lay person like I am controlling my experience of pain, or driving it.
and the mental healthy system generally blames the patient, instead of taking a in-depth and thorough detailed history of the patient, they take one look and stamp "Forever Hopeless" across your forehead.
Fibromyalgia makes it hard for the other person to deal with us.
Or my new friend exasperatedly calls me a "negative" person is always "whines.& quot; Spouses don't want to be caretakers. And, spouses expect certain things from their partners, like expecting their spouses to work and pull their own weight job wise -- they don't think that they will be rushing home to keep vigil and travel back and fort to the doctor's office learning the medical jargon.Because nobody wants a big problem to shoulder -- people already have THEIR OWN problems and they really don't want anybody else's.Sure the wedding vows read "in sickness and in health, till death do you part," but ill health is a burden for and on all those in the family, not just the one afflicted with the disease.and being seen as a "whiner" or someone who is "negative" can make the maybe-boyfriend or girlfriend turn and run fast away.So how does someone with fibromyalgia get someone to come in close enough to decide that the fibro sufferer is worth getting to know and is worth that person's commitment even in marriage?