"When I was writing my book, I created many dating profiles.
I was the cool girl, the funny girl, the sexy girl, the shy girl.
With hundreds of dating sites and hundreds of thousands of potential partners, even knowing where to begin is difficult.
Stick to language that shows high levels of confidence whenever possible. While you may think this is a productive way to ward off unwanted suitors, all it does is make men think that you are a negative person and possibly jaded by one too many bad dates.
The unwanted suitors are going to arrive at your inbox no matter what you do.
"Men are visual," Donaldson says, "So if you don't appeal to their sense of beauty, they will not write to you." He recommends one or two photos minimum but never more than four.
Schreffler stresses the importance of content: "Great dating profiles do not have shots of women with their cats.