O feel comfortable: Think about what’s really going on for you.Are the concerns about class divisions really your own, or are they related to what you fear others will think?And Tamsin says that as long as you share certain key core values with your partner, it doesn’t have to impact at all.‘Class is not an accurate way to predict relationship compatibility (and it’s not so easy to define as it once was).Also related to this is a concern over a clash of lifestyle.’ Insecurity ‘There could be a fear that your loved ones will judge or reject you, based on your partner choice.’ People outside Britain don’t get our obsession with class – and neither do many of us in this country.
‘This leads us to repeating patterns regardless of whether they also have detrimental elements or not.’ Unconscious bias or prejudice ‘There could be prejudice or unconscious bias at play where one person has formed or inherited certain assumptions about a person based on a belief of shared class characteristics.’ Fear of judgement or acceptance ‘It’s natural to want a partner to fit in with a social circle or with family – perhaps if your partner seems wildly different then there may be a concern that they won’t be accepted.The practical stuff is such a drag and no one wants to deal with it when things are new and exciting.Then there’s the “background” stuff, like where he or she is from, what their family is like, what they do and earn, and so on. ” stage, we like to think that stuff doesn’t matter. It shouldn’t matter who makes what and who has what, right? The harsher truth is, economics do impact our romantic relationships.Think about your core values – what is really important to you, and try and find a partner that shares similar values,’ she says.‘Going outside of your comfort zone can be a rewarding and illuminating experience in many areas, including relationships. Opposites can most definitely attract, but unless your core values are aligned and you’re willing to work at it, it might not last.’ Tamsin recommends three points of action for making you and your potential S.