I'm totally guilty of just fading out/not replying in lieu of saying no.Part of it is wanting to avoid confrontation, for sure, and feeling guilty about being mean, but I also feel like I suck at dating/meeting people and therefore give myself a hard time for wanting to shoot down an interested party, however politely.In partnership with AXE Deodorant Bodyspray Hooking that hottie is hard enough without the odds stacked against you, so the city researchers at Sperling’s Best Places have identified for you "America’s Best and Worst Cities for Dating." The study is based on criteria that includes percentage of singles ages 18-24, population density, and dating venues per capita such as concerts, coffee shops, bars, bowling alleys, etc., and includes 80 metro areas in America. We teamed up with AXE Deodorant Bodyspray, which specializes in the dating game, to find out which city is revered as the D. So instead of saying no, I usually just say nothing." Charlize, 30 "When a guy asks me out on a date in person and I want to decline, I usually say that I'm in a relationship. I just think there's no constructive aspect to being honest about why you're saying no in the initial encounter they've approached you in the right (respectful) way. However, given the gift of the scenario in which some asshole tries to do it, I relish in every opportunity for the public takedown.Then comes the all-too-familiar scenario of meeting someone—whether it's over the Internet or in person—and being initially attracted enough to exchange numbers, then being turned off for whatever (read: any) reason.
If you're not familiar, a "long, slow good-bye" is a strategically and subtly reduced frequency of contact. My reasoning is equally as selfish as the method itself: The "long, slow good-bye" is followed by an ominous feeling of guilt and self-contempt if you have even a morsel of a conscience.That I would never blame it on having a partner, because I should be allowed to just not like someone and not feel bad about it."Gillian, 23 "I don't like to condone lying, BUT I lie constantly when it comes to dating and/or getting out of dating. To be fair, I usually pull this crap with Tinder dates and I'm much nicer with actual prospects, set-ups, and people I've actually met IRL.I have a really nasty habit (working on it) of bailing on a date hours before it's supposed to happen, usually with the old, 'Oh shit, I'm sorry, my boss just told me I have to work late. But yes, I am rude and terrible, and I'm sure my karma is so stacked against me at this point that I will be single for life." Lauren, 28 "When a guy asks me on a date over text I pull the awkward, 'Suuuure, let's find a dayyyy,' and then am vague, noncommittal, and generally annoying until we can both agree that life is SO crazy right now and...*FADED* because I'm nonconfrontational and don't know how to be a real person.I'm a huge bitch and that is why I am single."Monica, 28 "I am SPINELESS when it comes to turning down guys.To the point where, when one guy asked me out on a second date that I was not interested in going on, I typed out a very nice 'You're great, but I don't think we're right for each other' text message to reply with and then proceeded to continually stare at it but not actually send the thing—until finally too much time passed and I had just ghosted on him by default.