I'm not sure if it's because older women are seen as more interesting or self-assured, or (as I suspect) because men watch too many X-rated films centered on the younger man/older woman trope. Another downside is that when I match with someone, we are freed from face-to-face communication, which isn't always good.Many men act in ways I imagine they would if they were sitting across from me over dinner.Then we looked for a place to continue the conversation, gave up, and he brought me home, walked me to the door and gave me a goodnight kiss.He had a wonderful combination of piercing and wide-ranging intelligence, a sense of humor, and a good job –he played guitar in a metal band.I didn't and we dated for a few more months but parted ways once we determined we wanted different things from a relationship. We matched on Tinder and he immediately asked me to dinner.
The schedule makes intimacy difficult and the dating (and mating) dance tends to be, well, not very easy.In my late 40s, I never thought I would turn to a "hook-up" app for romance. After my marriage of 12 years ended, I spent most of the past decade building a successful career that allowed me the time and flexibility I needed to raise my son and assembling a close-knit circle of friends.Although my ex-husband and I co-parent our now 12-year old son, my son spends 75% of his time at my home. My friend and I were sharing a hotel room at a weeklong business conference.After a day of dry lectures and an evening of happy hours and conference socializing, we were tired, a bit tipsy, and slightly giddy.