The grown-up dater gives him a reasonable amount of time to show up, and then says a big “So what! Take care of yourself by initiating a conversation and sharing your needs and wants. (Because after all, your type hasn't worked or you would be reading this.)5. If you are dealing with a grown-up man he will appreciate and respect you for it. You have to work hard to find someone you really want and really like – or, as one married male friend put it, “someone normal” (apparently normal men are in short supply).The search is a kind of journey, and along the way you tend to learn a few things about yourself, and about the society we live in. Everyone knows lots of fabulous single women in their 40s …but can’t think of any equally fabulous single men the same age. But according to TODAY’s “This is 50” survey results, only 18 percent of single people in their 50s said they were dating.
Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of , that she loved her nieces and nephews but did not want children of her own.
More than 30 percent don’t even know where to begin and nearly 30 percent say they find it too stressful (think back to those sweaty palms and awkward conversations.) For more than 40 percent of respondents, other priorities are simply more important, and nearly one-quarter say it’s just too difficult to date when you’re 50-plus.
That’s true whether you’re 16 or 56, but more than 40 percent don’t believe there is anyone “out there” to date.
We waited a long time to focus on settling down, and now we’re facing a somewhat distressing fact of life: Once you’re over 40, there is a diminished pool of men to choose from.
So we figured out – and accepted – that the right man does not magically appear when you’re ready for him.