More important than age is self-esteem, the ability to talk with their parents about any concerns, their ability to say "no" to things they aren't comfortable with, the ability to make good choices when choosing friends. It is your job to protect her and be her parent, not her best friend. Whenever I come home, there she is right after school until dark with her boyfriend until he wanders home when her parents get home. She's with her boyfriend all day long at school and after school, and I NEVER GO OUT!!! I know the movies is a far cry from this for you daughter, but still, you're right, it's too young.
From a former middle school teacher, I say wait until 16! Her parents had been dropping her off at the mall and movies with her boyfriend. She flaked on sitting for us New Year's Eve to be with her boyfriend. Your daughter needs to stay busy and not start paring off on dating things. He had met my mom and totally respected her and so he respected me. I think it is up to the parents to decide what is best for the individual child.
I'm afraid I don't see what the issue is with four 13 year-olds going to a movie together. I never had to worry about coming home and facing the infamous "Ummm, guess what? I didn't even try to pull that with my parents until junior or senior year, and even then it was just going out with a "group" and hanging with a favorite guy in the mix without telling them because I wasn't really allowed to date.
My son had a girlfriend by the time he was 13, my daughter was 14. I've already watched her flirt (quite skillfully) with boys her age, so I'm expecting this to happen early with her, too. I wasn't allowed to "date" until I was 16..even then, one or both of my parents tagged along. My 14 year old neighbor/babysitter talks about nothing but her boyfriend boyfriend boyfriend. She's hardly ever free to sit because she's with her boyfriend's family and away on all their church group's outreach things together.
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At the end of our 8th grade year we did go with friends to see a movie or go to festivals, church events. I didn't let them date until 16, they didn't have cell phones until 16, no tv's, computers or phones in their rooms and I was the WORST MOTHER in the world! she has just hit puberty, 1 of 2 things can happen...
We are now hated - enduring deaths stares and silence.
I'm looking for opinions from other moms of teens about when your daighters went on a first date, had a first boyfriend, etc.
That summer we would meet up at the pool on the weekends. I too, endured many stares...sometimes I really had to work hard not to start laughing! you can take the time out to explain all the risks she is taking now, and try to trust her to a point....
I had a full time babysitting job 5 days a week, and he bussed tables, so weekends are when we got to see each other. Once we were freshmen in high school, we did get dropped off at the movies. or you can do what my parents did and lock her away from boys until she is old enough to run away, and then have a prego 15yr old... we cant tell them of the evils in the world without expecting them to be curious. try to talk to her like an 'adult' and explain your concerns.