It’s when you drag it with you morosely, or hide behind it, that it becomes an issue.
You don’t want a partner who’s lived a trouble-free life, because you won’t know how they cope with problems.
A partner who has faced crisis and carried on is a tried-and-tested survivor. The fastest way to rebuild your self-esteem and cure depression is to feel you’re helping others.
Volunteers have the lowest levels of depression of any social group, so if the blues have hit you, join in.
Turned out, dating as a divorced 35-year-old was a great way to pass the time until I felt ready for a relationship again.
Behold the 16 stages of my journey, illustrated with GIFs featuring sassy women.
There’ an old adage that love will find you only when you stop looking for it. You’re older, you have less free time if you’re having to work longer hours or raise kids, more of your friends will be in couples – waiting for love to knock on your door could see you still pacing your hallway in your eighties. Sign up for online-dating (perfect if you’re busy at work or at home) and widen your social circle, whilst you get on with creating a lovely, fulfilling life for yourself.
The goal here is that you increase your chances to meet a new partner, while your eyes are shining at the goals and dreams you’re achieving as a singleton.
THAT’S the attitude that will see your post-divorce self looking to the future with excitement, and bring someone new along to share the ride.
Don’t be tempted to use dating to salvage your pride.
While you’ll undoubtedly get a confidence boost from realising you’re still desirable, it’ll only be a fragile support and if that relationship finishes too, you’ll feel doubly vulnerable. Instead of rushing back into looking for love, take some time to rebuild your self-esteem *for* and *by* yourself.