Someone sees you are happy, and they think that’s a problem? The truth is there are a lot of people out there in the world who are swinging – widowed, divorced, even married.
But if “having fun” in this way becomes where you get your self-pride and self-worth, then I encourage you to think carefully about why you are dating after the death of your husband.
You know I’m going to tell you to be careful and protect yourself as you’re dating after the death of your husband. Usually when I get questions about dating after the death of a spouse, it’s because the questioner fears judgment and criticism from others.
Of course I mean physically – make sure you and your partner are both healthy and safe. I would tell you that if people are judging you, just ask yourself where that comes from.
You’ll discover activities you like, you’ll do those things, and you will meet potential new friends, love interests, maybe even flings.
If you mean “fun,” with a wink wink, nudge nudge, that’s awesome too.
And right now, taking care of yourself and enjoying yourself is an important new way to be responsible.
Being “responsible” isn’t supposed to be punitive, it’s about building awareness and learning.
You may not be emotionally available now, but you may become more emotionally available as more time passes after the death of your husband.In the widowed community, the topic of “dating again” seems to be somewhat of an obsession by many. The combination of things that people do or don’t do with their rings is endless. Some widowed parents might hold onto the ring to give to their son or daughter one day.You and your husband probably became more responsible and goal-oriented.I love that you want to use this time to take a step back and have some fun.