Marriage means saying "yes" to one man for life and "no" to all the rest.
As you're finding, it complicates things to try and grow in friendship toward marriage with two men at one time.
While it's possible to consider two men at once, it's not advisable for the reasons you've already raised: It's difficult to do it in a way that's honoring to them, which dings your reputation and leaves you feeling guilty. You've said it might be too early in the relationships to have to choose, and I suspect you're right.
Rarely does it happen that two men pursue with equal interest and intentionality, stirring in a woman an equal response and potential for love and marriage.
"If we practice some mindfulness, it can be easier to suss out what it is we're really feeling.
If you are struggling to tell if it's love or lust (or both), take some time to sit with your feels." Our society is slowly growing more accepting of people in open or polyamorous relationships.
"Most people in long-term relationships will develop some feelings for people other than their partner at some point," says relationships educator Kate Mc Combs.Does the existence of these types of relationships prove that you can love two (or more) people at once?Or do they simply acknowledge the predisposition of certain people to gravitate away from monogamy?Different people have different ideas about what it means to be in love, and the criteria under which happy relationships can flourish. I have fun with both of them, and they both show signs of being a godly husband.