So, my crush I just found out is dating someone else (I know this because she even said she was going on a double date with him, and really happy about it).I just sort of told her good luck and have fun, faking trying to be happy for her, when I am crushed inside.Those who can say those three words too fast, or display the willingness to commit too fast, are not supposed to be serious about you in the first place. This is normal most of the cases but if you don’t make an effort to reflect on this, it will not be healthy for your relationship or for yourself.Then it is also normal to feel attracted to someone else, especially that other person has some quality that your current partner lacks.You also need to realize those who turned away from you simply because you already have a boyfriend/girlfriend do want to be friends with you in the first place, and I doubt if they even want a relationship with you.They may be attracted to you, but I am sure that is something other than who you really are as a person.That being said, I looked it the whole scenario and said to myself, ok, time to move on.She's still a nice person, and I would like to be friends and not burn bridges, but I don't know if I can get over her yet.
Like I said, she seems flirty and says she wants to go out together, but I know its just a friend thing. You can be attracted to many people for different reasons, and a lot of the attractions may be very strong at the beginning.The problem about attraction is though: you started to have strong feelings for someone even without knowing him/her at all, which means the strong feelings though you probably need to be attracted to someone at first sight to be able to fall in love later. When you can finally say “I love you” to someone, it should represent at least your willingness to fully commit (there is no such thing as partially commit). When you’ve been with someone for too long, you started taking things for granted and become less appreciative.You probably had this experience before: As soon as she/he got to know you already have a girlfriend/boyfriend, she/he stopped talking to you, ever.First you need to understand this is normal because settling down means you have ultimately limited your options, from everyone in the world to one specific person, so fewer people will be interested in you, and this is the choice you made when you decided to commit.