This will help spark an idea about where to take the message.Bonus: you’ll find out if you truly want to message this person or if they’re just drawing you in with their physical appearance.I’ve been doing the whole online dating thing on and off for years now and let me just say, I’ve had the entire range of good, bad and ugly messages arrive in my inbox.There was a time I even created a blog to showcase some of the best of the worst because I felt the world should share in the horror with me.You checked me out and didn't say hi" It has a very high return response rate.D&P writes about it here: As for the first girl, the convo ended prematurely, but I have a date Friday with the second girl. Just gets things going in a more interesting way than "hey".
I just try to get their attention in the first message instead of writing a long winded specific message about something in their profile. Too short and they go in the pile of “ If you’re looking for an authentic committed relationship, something a bit more fleeting, someone to go out on adventures with or someone to come over at night for Netflix binges, know your own wants and desires.It seems crazy, I know, but take the one or two minutes it takes to actually read the profile.I don't have any "proven" first messages, but one of my friends is successful and he just writes, "hey" or "sup" in his first message. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. However, if you're doing mass messaging like I do then you simply can't take the time do break down each girl's profile unless you want to make an afternoon out of it.It's the second message that he uses to really get them interested. One that ALWAYS ensured a reply back was "I hope you aren't racist". I guess they always replied so that they could validate themselves somewhat so that they don't feel guilty or racist if they didn't reply. The line I've been using to message chicks is: "Hey I checked out your profile and you seem cool. " By saying I checked out their profile it implies that I did actually check them out which I didn't, I just look at their pictures.