“The biggest benefit of not drinking on a first date is that you see everything clearly, so you can more honestly assess whether you're having fun and enjoying the person you're with.
There's no false insta-chemistry or beer goggles,” Barcella said.
“No one should get sloppy drunk, but it’s nice to let down your guard and get to know someone. ” Katz isn’t the only one who thinks alcohol is a natural part of dating.
About 20 percent of singles who responded to the survey said that drinks are always a part of their first date, while 43 percent said they have a drink “most of the time” on the first go-round.
As dating coach Evan Marc Katz says, “Are you going to hide the fact that you enjoy having a drink when you go out forever?
Forty percent of respondents said they were game to have a drink as long as their date ordered one first, and that’s exactly what Adam Lo Dolce advises his clients to do.
Alcohol has been part of human society for thousands of years, and it’s likely been part of the mating game for most of that time. A little liquid courage helps folks put aside those first-date jitters and let their hair down a bit.
But while it might seem natural to have a drink or two early in your relationship, the results of the recent Love Bitessurvey conducted by and make it clear that drinking and dating can be a minefield for singles.
“And when you're sober, you're way less likely to overshare, talk about an ex, cry, vomit, or wake up next to someone repulsive.” Putting it that way, it seems clear that drinking and dating simply don’t mix. While skipping the booze may seem like a no-brainer, dating coach and author Evan Marc Katz says that means you’d be skipping his favorite kind of date.
“If I were to design the perfect date, it would take place over drinks - you get to dress up, go someplace interesting and it’s less formal than dinner,” he said.